Getting Over Depression Until It Gets You
Depression is often called a queen of negative emotions. Psychologists consider that it is the depression that makes a person start thinking about himself and his life. Sometimes after depression goes away this person starts changing the situation and achieves great success. However, sometimes it is very difficult for a depressed person to get over it that causes further deterioration of the person’s emotional state. So, what should one do to handle the depression and to make the most of it? This article is dedicated to the most popular recommendations offered by specialists.
Find a hobby
Perhaps the most common reason of depression is boredom and monotony of life. If you spend all your life at work and don’t have something else to switch your attention to you will easily get bored and frustrated if something is wrong in your professional sphere. Besides, if everything is smooth in your professional activity it’s not good either as the absence of new achievements and challenges evokes the sensation of empty and dull life. So, it is high time for you to find a new hobby. New interests and emotions are very important for psychic and mental health as they help reduce tension, nurture our self-esteem and just make us feel better. Interesting activity helps us get rid of negative thoughts and emotions which usually result in depression. The most positive effect can be achieved by playing team building games, travelling, manual activities (handicraft, gardening, etc.)
Become an optimist
If a person has negative attitude towards everything that is happening in his life he will surely suffer from depression. According to the conducted researches depressed people are inclined to diminish their achievements, talents and accomplishments. People who are satisfied with their lives also face failures, become disappointed, feel pain, fear, anxiety and guilty just like the depressed people do. The only difference between them lies in the attitude to the negative events. Positive people don’t treat them as the excessive tragedy. On the contrary, they keep their head up as they accept pain and sorrows being an integral part of their lives which cannot be excluded, but should be just passed through with minimal losses. That is why positive people have more friends who in their turn help them survive in difficult situations.
Solve problems in your personal relationship
Strained relationships with your spouse, children, parents and other relatives or complicated love affairs won’t make your mood better. No doubt that you won’t be able to solve all the relationship problems at once; you should do it step-by-step. You can set achievable goals and divide large goals into several small steps. Don’t be afraid of consulting the therapist, family consultant or asking friends to help you. Ask yourself: Which negative or stressful situations are there in my life? How can I solve them? How should I repair conflict relations? Don’t give up and live the situation unattended in any case. Sometimes depressed people aren’t able just to find the correct answer to the question as they consider all the decisions to be inappropriate, unpleasant or ineffective. Don’t let pessimism influence your decisions. Be open for every idea whatever complicated or strange it can seem to be.
Be friendlier with people
Sincere attention and interest to other people can help you build up new positive relations. Ask your friends and close ones to pay less attention to your depressive mood, to ignore your complaints and to stop sympathizing with you. Find any activity you can carry out together with your friends, for example, dancing, going in for sports, travelling and so on. The logic continuation of the given thesis leads us to the following:
Stop being pitiful to yourself
When you complain about your life, cry and tell your friends about your feelings your friends and relatives express understanding and compassion. Unfortunately, it is compassion that encourages depressive behaviour. Sometimes friends and your family are ready to relieve you of your house duties so you lie in bed days and nights being exhausted from self-pity while your close people are serving you. As a result, you begin to be dependent upon the surrounding people; you look for their compassion by all means. Among the other symptoms of the depressive behaviour are overeating, chaotic wasting of money, alcohol and drug addiction, and mindless sex. It helps forget about your problems for a short period of time and feel better. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get rid of these habits.
Look at the truth
Reconsider your life expectations and priorities. Perhaps you will have to leave some illusions and set more realistic goals. People suffering from depression often try to convince themselves of being happy only with certain things in life: lover, material values, money, glory and so on. If it is impossible to get the desired thing it is very easy to start feeling sorry for yourself again. However, it’s much better to accept the situation and give up unachievable things. Some life situations just cannot be changed. Why don’t you set realistic goals like changing the job you hate or break the painful relations?
Change your lifestyle and attitude
To get over depression you should get rid of habits that cause it to some extent. Try to change the way you think and look at every situation positively. If you try to accuse circumstances or your friends of your failures find a nerve to tell: “It’s my responsibility. Nobody is guilty. I can change everything”. If you happen to be in the same situation try to behave differently in order to break the behavioural pattern. If you consider people to think poor of you please remember that you cannot read their thoughts. Moreover, they can think whatever they want. Be armed with humour and self-irony as they help survive in difficult situations.
Mind sport activity
Sport activity and healthy eating is not a kind of “medical pill”. It is the lifestyle that can help keep both physical and mental health. Moreover, sport activity makes a person more disciplined and develop self-possession and firmness. You don’t need to start with severe sport load; you can just dedicate 30 minutes to sport exercises every day and it will be enough.
Change your eating mode
Overeating, starvation and hard drinking are factors of the deviant behaviour and attempt to suppress our feelings and emotions. However, sooner or later our emotions can turn into various diseases, both physical and psychological, such as depression. Don’t “eat over” emotions you try to get rid of. Don’t try to escape from your feelings and look at them. Say to you: “I am ready to look at my fears. I stop eating and making this situation more complicated. I will eat only if I am hungry”. You will be surprised to see how quickly your eating mode will normalize. The ideal eating mode is three meals per day without any bites, especially in the evening. Hunger is a natural reaction of your body, not mind. You are not supposed to keep on a strong diet. You can eat whatever you want, but only when you are hunёёgry.
Please remember that you have everything you need to be happy and get out of the depressive behaviour in your hands. Maybe this way is more difficult that taking medical drugs prescribed to treat depression. However this way will surely help change the essence of your life and your future.